We have all done it.
You find your click, your people.
Your community and friends.
Whether it is co workers, old friends, family members or in laws.
You tend to flock to these people in social situations.
Come together for events and just to hang out.
I recently made a big move away from that community I established.
And its been one of the hardest things I have ever done.
I wouldn’t change it, of course, my family is together and happy and that is most important.
But none the less, its tough being away from friends and family.
To not have the option to meet up at a park or have them over for coffee.
I have come to the discovery that the older you get the harder it seems to make friends.
Its not like it was in grade school when making friends was as simple as sitting next to that person in class.
Sharing the same lunch schedule and complaining about your homework.
Sadly, you think it would be.
We are older now, hopefully wiser, and are all in this shared chaotic adventure.
I always thought of motherhood as this unspoken bond.
A bond us women shared going through the beautiful struggle of it all.
But I have come to realize its not expressed as much as it should be.
We all have the same thoughts and wishes but don’t seem to act on them.
So much of our time is consumed with social media.
Almost a blessing and a curse.
Being a great asset and yet feeding a sense of loneliness.
Watching life happen from afar.
Its so easy to click the reaction button on Facebook.
But much harder to pick up the phone or set aside time.
The friends who make the effort to be a physical part of your life,
Seem to be fewer and far in between than I would like.
As human beings we crave interaction, in fact, we thrive on it.
And unfortunately, I have learned the loss of that interaction.
The friends who just stop calling or drift apart from your life.
Its never easy to accept.
Especially, if your like me and desire communication and closure.
I found myself the other day conversing with the lovely girl making my coffee at Starbucks.
Toting my 3 children, looking half a mess and sleep deprived.
I Wanted so badly to try and stem a further friendship with her.
Lets face it, she had me at, “what kind of coffee can I get you?” 🙂
But of course, my brain fires off a million reasons not to.
Yet, had I been back in my school days it would have been so easy to develop that relationship.
Why do we shy away so much now?
What are we afraid of?
Yes, she could have found me to be a creeper and just politely passed me my coffee and that would have been that.
But it also could have been the start to great friendship.
One where we could clearly meet for coffee and let our children play together in the park.
The possibilities are endless.
The bond that should exist, and all too often doesn’t.
Now more than ever we should be banding together just as we used to.
We don’t have to do this alone.